Back in December, I had this heated conversation with my Ex that I was going to blog about, but I never did. I wrote the draft & Eddy looked it over for me, but it was never published because I finally decided that I was done with her. Anyway, when I decided to feature Stephanie's blog this week, I remembered that I still had the post saved in my drafts, and thought that I'd post it now. You'll have to go over to Stephanie's blog to really understand why.
OK, about the conversation. Well, it was rather long, so I'm going to sum things up for you by saying that it all came about based on something that my Ex told me towards the end of last Summer. Basically, she said that I just have to deal with who she is now. I know what you're thinking because it's what I was thinking, i.e. exactly who is she now? So, I asked her to explain herself…
Me: OK, wtf are you trying to tell me? Spit it out.
My Ex: You don't understand what's happened to me.
Me: Oh, I'm sorry. Where have I been all these years, in the closet?
My Ex: What closet? What do you mean?
Me: This is going right over your head, isn't?
My Ex: (in a screeching voice) I’m straight now! I'm straight now – that's it!
Me: (totally laughing my a** off, thinking she's so far back in the closet, she can see Narnia)
My Ex: Stop laughing at me. Stop it!
Me: Please, you're not straight and never have been. It's time you accept that you’re bi.
My Ex: Stop it, JB, you don't understand me.
Me: (laughing) Stop lying to yourself. You're bi and that’s it. When you come to terms with your sexuality maybe then you'll stop yelling at me about who you really are.
My Ex: This was hard for me.
Me: What? F**king your guy friend because you couldn't leave your little nest to f**k a real man?
My Ex: Stop it! I don't want to hear this.
Me: Oh, that's it, huh? I can only say what you want to hear?
My Ex: Stop.
Me: Let me tell you something, screwing your guy friend doesn't make you straight.
My Ex: Please, I know what I did.
Me: OK, you're straight now, but for 14 years you were not straight, not bi, not anything?
My Ex: I’m sorry.
Me: Oh, yeah? OK, go be straight with your dirty, pot smoking, little boy.
There you have it, people. My Ex claims that she’s straight now. Oh, yeah? Well, just to make sure that I wasn't in my own little world with regards to how things went down, I called my therapist for another point-of-view. Turns out what I had to say did make sense, so that’s a relief. My therapist said that if my Ex has to justify her sexual orientation with me, it's a clear indication that she's confused. Furthermore, for her to spend 14 years with a woman and then suddenly claim to be straight is a lie. She's bi-sexual and simply can't deal with her sexuality.
Yes, my thoughts exactly.