I've been reading the book He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, and I’ve discovered something shocking about myself. It turns out I'm one of ‘those’ women. You know, the kind that can’t clue in to the fact that a certain someone just isn’t into them. Here I am reading the book because I heard that it’s really funny, meanwhile it’s just making me mad. The authors might be trying to help women understand the mixed signals that guys send out, but I can tell you that the signals are just as mixed up when it comes to women dating women. What’s really crazy is that my Ex behaved like a guy who wasn’t into a woman when we were together, and now she’s with a guy who really isn’t into her & she makes excuses for his behaviour. Whew, and I thought I was messed up.
Anyway, the more I read this book, the more I think about what Greg’s response would have been to me had I written to him with my story. I can just imagine his reply…
Dear Stupid with the Ex who doesn’t know which side she’s batting for & never will,
How many times do you need to be hit in the head with the penis of your ex-best friend? You know, the one that your Ex has been riding? Get a life before you have no more dignity left. No one is worth all this pain. She’s dug her grave now let her lay in it with the barely-a-man boy who chose to screw the bi/curious/gay/lesbian/straight/whatever the hell biatch!
Greg
Yeah, I’m pretty sure it would've gone something like that.
JB
I'm so sorry about your relationship.
ReplyDeleteBut at least now you know, right?
Thanks for pimping out my blog. Much appreciated!
@Bella...who's your pimping daddy now!!! No worries, I was an idiot and now I'm a recovering idiot, so that's the way the kitty falls.
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Eh...the book to me was mumbo jumbo but the movie had more an impact
ReplyDelete@miss Stef...the thing is, that the book made me more madd, then made me laugh, but it showed me that my Ex is a selfish,egotistical, narcissistic, self absorbed idiot,
ReplyDeletebitch and a guy...nooowww that's nuts. Thanks for stopping in and I'm going to see the movie this week. A follow up to come...stay tuned.
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I watched the film only yesterday and - incidentally - just wrote about it on my blog. I wonder if the book is equally bad... I think I was hoping for some nice Sunday afternoon relaxation but left the cinema depressed and confused.
ReplyDeleteI figure, better safe than sorry. I mean, after five years in my basement dungeon if my ex doesn't change her mind then I'll know for sure it's just not meant to be.
ReplyDeleteYou were meant for better things, or you would still be there, fighting for the attention and affection of someone so clearly not able to give it. Don't beat yourself up over it. Shoulders back and head high, JB! The only good thing I see that you got out of it was a future! Now go get it!!!
ReplyDeleteNow see that would have made a great scene in the movie. But they didn't go there.
ReplyDeleteI really need to read that book. I loved the movie.
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ROTFL omggggg I loveeee you. That is hysterical. I'm literally laughing aloud and wondering if my roommates hear me in here cackling.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the words on my blog. I needed a firm STOP IT, and you said it in the sweetest of ways haha. Sometimes its just that you've already been on your knees so its not hard for them to get you crawling I guess.
Wtf am I even saying right now?
SLEEP DEPRIVED AMANDA GRACEEEEE
That book is like a bible for me, JB. The book tells the truth and shows me the way but like every good Catholic, I don't listen to what the bible says and constantly wonder if the guy wants me or not.
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@polly..the book is not bad but it annoyed me more then anything. I couldn't find the humor till the last few chapters, probably when HJNTIM turned into SJNTIM wake up stupid!!!! and then I started to giggle alittle.
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@breath of insanity....you know it girlfriend the road is now paved for bigger, better,nicer and less of self loathing and pathetic. Well I think at least. Work in progress may have a few relapses.
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@JP.....who is the fool on the hill...oh yeah that's me. Basements are very humid can affect people's thinking you may want to try another room....just saying.
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@chosha...well you know, they only want to suger coat it and not really keep it real. I believe, that's the response I would have really gotten, from him and I sure as hell deserve it, after all this time. Thanks for stopping in.
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@Nic...you should read it just for the hell of it, but don't read into it too much or maybe we all should? mmmm...not sure. I know now that women dating women use the same excusues as men so it's no better on the other side of the tracks. What's a girl to do? Thanks for stopping in and commenting.
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@amanda...you go get some sleep and don't let anything crawl into your bed/life/room/bathroom/basement/ if they're not going to treat you with respect,love,admiration and kindness you got that Miss save your soul beautiful person you.
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@Trinity...my seductress, nice to see you come by missed you. Well, Trinity we all fall of the path but I fell down the side of the hill and was there for far to long. It was time that I realised that SJNTIY and move on so I am putting my best foot forward.
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I have no idea what most of that was about but it was hilarious the way you turned it out here...well done.
ReplyDeleteHeh, been there... done that... not doing it again. *wink* This book is now is the movies, but you probably knew this.
ReplyDeleteKeep your chin up.
nice humour :)...still not have been able to get my hands on the book...search is still on!
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I never heard there was a book lol...but now i know and I'm gonna check it out. :]
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mixed messages? Someone not calling you, not doing what they say they will, not being respectful or kind, isn't a mixed message, It's self explanatory. You just have to have enough confidence in yourself to not make excuses for someone else's bad behaviour. By the way, the movie sucked...
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I would like to change the title of this post to "OMG, I'm One of 'Those' Women"
ReplyDeleteSee, I am not a very nice person.
Secondly, I am yet to see the book/film although I think this post is very dramatic. It kind of illuminates the conflicts in our hearts or does it not?
ReplyDeletePerhaps most relationships are the same afterall, regardless of whether one is in a male-male, m-f, ff relationship. But thats a rather myopic view.
More seriously, if I may echo Bella, I am sure the experience may have put you in a much wiser position, if there is anything like that!
In thanking you for this blog, I am not sure if you would like to see the wind in your vagina
Hey jb :)
ReplyDeleteI saw the movie and read parts of the book. I thought the movie was a lot different than the book, but that usually happens. The movie has more of a positive vibe. BUT I think the book makes really good points, and it kind of freaks me out! haha. I also have the book "Why Men Love Bitches" but I haven't read it yet.
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I just read a message on my facebook this morning that they put the terms and conditions back to what they were before (for now) because of all the complaints they received. Serves them right!
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Hey there sweety!
ReplyDeleteI'm just checking one of my girls... I've missed you!
First of all, thanks for still dropping by my place... although everything is okay now... I'm going through a bad patch now, that's why I'm not that much around...
But anyhoo... I like to see you like this, fighting your way up... althuogh these kind of books can make us mad... it can also make us wake up and "smell the coffee".
As always I admire you , apriciate and recognize you 'cause I love you girl!
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@braja...thank-you very much I've become a true expert at laughing at myself. So as the saying goes if you can't laugh at yourself then you can't see past youself,so live love and laugh.
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@donna...yeah I know and so here i am at least i can laugh more and cry less.
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jb, you are fricken hilarious. I promise to Goddess I will NOT under any circumstances pray for you ;-.)
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danielle
Wow--from first glance I can tell you and I have plenty in common, therefore, I look forward to enjoying every moment while reading your blog. I found it through The Passionate Bookworm, for she rewarded the both of us awards. I look forward to frequenting your blog and hope you, too, enjoy mine.
ReplyDeleteHey...hope you're having a good week. Thinking of you!! :)
ReplyDeletemy apologies for getting to your tummy...but it really bothered me that people are so passive and unemotional. That would tear me apart, even listening to the story did a little.
ReplyDeleteHope all is well love, looking forward to a new update and to updating you.
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I have to watch that movie maybe this week end.
ReplyDeleteYour blog is one the best I'm reading.
How many hours do you spend about blogging?
I'm not sure who you were referring to at the end of that rant but, I'm sorry for them. In fact I feel like apologizing on their behalf but, will resist because I'm a fan of people lieing in their own graves they've dug.
ReplyDeleteI just saw the movie. I'm feeling a bit depressed that I feel a connection with the married woman. I also read the book. The day before Valentine's day. I thought about highlighting all the parts that show my husband isn't that into me to give him for his gift.
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