I've been reading the book He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, and I’ve discovered something shocking about myself. It turns out I'm one of ‘those’ women. You know, the kind that can’t clue in to the fact that a certain someone just isn’t into them. Here I am reading the book because I heard that it’s really funny, meanwhile it’s just making me mad. The authors might be trying to help women understand the mixed signals that guys send out, but I can tell you that the signals are just as mixed up when it comes to women dating women. What’s really crazy is that my Ex behaved like a guy who wasn’t into a woman when we were together, and now she’s with a guy who really isn’t into her & she makes excuses for his behaviour. Whew, and I thought I was messed up.
Anyway, the more I read this book, the more I think about what Greg’s response would have been to me had I written to him with my story. I can just imagine his reply…
Dear Stupid with the Ex who doesn’t know which side she’s batting for & never will,
How many times do you need to be hit in the head with the penis of your ex-best friend? You know, the one that your Ex has been riding? Get a life before you have no more dignity left. No one is worth all this pain. She’s dug her grave now let her lay in it with the barely-a-man boy who chose to screw the bi/curious/gay/lesbian/straight/whatever the hell biatch!
Greg
Yeah, I’m pretty sure it would've gone something like that.
JB
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Monday, February 16, 2009
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Self Help Books: They Can Help, But...
Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
-- Dorothy Thompson
I went to pick up a new journal a few days ago, and I noticed something for the first time. I mean it’s probably been like this for a while, but I just noticed. The self help section of the local Chapter's that I go to is now the biggest section in the store. Self help... this makes me wonder. With all of these self help books, why is everyone still so screwed up? I mean, you’d think that these books are helping. Oprah, Louise Hay, Eckhart Tolle, Marianne Williamson, and Wayne Dyer (just to name a handful of author's) all have books out there trying to teach people how to do/be/have any number of things in life. The world ought to be better, people should be healing, but I see no change, no real difference. People are buying these books, but I think they might just be using them as coasters or door stoppers. I can't tell you how many people have told me that they bought a certain book and got nothing out of it. When I ask whether they actually bothered to apply what they read, they get a look on their faces that tells me they haven't done a damn thing. Well, explain to me how a book is supposed to help you if you read it, but then continue to live your life the way you always have?? It's easy to blame a book (or a person) for how crappy your life is, but the fact is you are the only one holding you back. A book can open you to new ideas, but you need to get going and do something. I know no one wants to hear that, but -- reality check -- it's true. Don't get me wrong, I understand that change is hard and that change itself scares people, but only you can change your life.
JB
-- Dorothy Thompson
I went to pick up a new journal a few days ago, and I noticed something for the first time. I mean it’s probably been like this for a while, but I just noticed. The self help section of the local Chapter's that I go to is now the biggest section in the store. Self help... this makes me wonder. With all of these self help books, why is everyone still so screwed up? I mean, you’d think that these books are helping. Oprah, Louise Hay, Eckhart Tolle, Marianne Williamson, and Wayne Dyer (just to name a handful of author's) all have books out there trying to teach people how to do/be/have any number of things in life. The world ought to be better, people should be healing, but I see no change, no real difference. People are buying these books, but I think they might just be using them as coasters or door stoppers. I can't tell you how many people have told me that they bought a certain book and got nothing out of it. When I ask whether they actually bothered to apply what they read, they get a look on their faces that tells me they haven't done a damn thing. Well, explain to me how a book is supposed to help you if you read it, but then continue to live your life the way you always have?? It's easy to blame a book (or a person) for how crappy your life is, but the fact is you are the only one holding you back. A book can open you to new ideas, but you need to get going and do something. I know no one wants to hear that, but -- reality check -- it's true. Don't get me wrong, I understand that change is hard and that change itself scares people, but only you can change your life.
JB
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