Food for Thought: You Can't Avoid Destiny

Hi All,

Back in March, I mentioned a family member who has made a bunch of bad choices in life and is now paying for them in more ways than one. Today's food for thought really sums up how this individual was constantly trying everything and anything to ward off the inevitable, only to run right into it.

No doubt most of us have developed ways to avoid things we'd rather not deal with, but keep in mind that Karma will catch up eventually because every action has consequences. I've seen first hand how you'll be affected and it's not pretty, my friends, not one bit. Just think of the energy involved --- mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. How exhausting!

So, have courage. Ask for help with whatever it is that you need to face, and I guarantee help will appear if you're truly open to receiving it. After all, you're destined to deal with whatever you're avoiding, and I see no reason for you to do so alone.

Share what you think about today's food for thought by leaving a comment below.

Until next time,

Eddy

Food for Thought: My Name is Gossip

Hi All,

With all of the stories in the news about bullying, I wanted to share the following anonymous poem about gossip. I can't stand what young people are doing to each other, and it breaks my heart that those on the receiving end of such nastiness feel the only way out is to end their lives. Young people aren't the only guilty ones. Even adults who should know better are just as bad when it comes to gossip and treating each other disrespectfully. It needs to stop.

Please don't hesitate to share your thoughts by leaving a comment.

Until next time,

Eddy

Here We Go Again: Another E-Mail From My Ex

Endeavor:
- to strive to achieve or reach
- to attempt (as the fulfillment of an obligation) by exertion of effort
- to work with set purpose
(http://www.merriam-webster.com/)

For those of you who don't know yet, I finally cut ties with my Ex. Although, as I said in a previous post, it seems that I wasn't clear enough when I told her that we can't be friends because she sent me yet another e-mail. I have not responded, nor will I, but I just had to blog about it because she actually tried to get to me today by sending me a quote. Meanwhile, she doesn't even understand it. Here's the e-mail:

Hi JB,

I copied (copied what ??).... Sorry. I just want you to know, i don't want to loose your friendship, (like I said before, what part of 'we can't be friends' does she not understand?) when the day comes that you you are able to talk to me, i will be here... I just don't like the way it ended... (why, because it means that you can't have your cake & eat it too?) Please say something to me, i don't want to make you angry or to bring you in a bad place, (well, you're doing a d*mn good job) i just want to know how you are doing... (none of your freakin' business) (i don't know what the word endeovor means in the thought...) (yeah, and you can't spell it either)

"A guiding operational principle in my life [is that]...if frustrated in one's endeavor by a stone wall or any kind of blockage, one must find a way around--another route toward one's goal."
— E. Margaret Burbidge

Chatte

It's a rather ironic quote coming from a person who keeps ramming her head into the 'we can't be friends' wall that I put up. Well, she can keep on ramming her head into it because I am not tearing it down.

JB

Why Lie, Why?

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain

People do all sorts of things to avoid the truth. They lie, cheat, steal, kill, and just plain run as far as they can from it. The question that's been on my mind for about three days now is why do people lie? If anyone can answer this for me, I'd really like to know. These last two years of my life were turned upside down because two people that I trusted and called friends wove a web of lies so thick that I'm still uncovering all the layers.

Why do people lie? It’s bothering me so much. I can’t understand why it’s so hard to just be honest. Seriously, people, just be honest. It takes less effort to tell the truth than it does to lie because, when you lie once, you usually have to keep on lying in order to cover up the fact that you lied in the first place. Sometimes, you lie so much that you actually start believing that the lies are truth. How can this be right!? Why lie, why?

I have experienced first hand what lies can do. The saddest part is that the lies not only affected me, but also all of my friends and family on both sides of the lies. So, you see how when people assume it’s alright to lie how it can ripple through everything? It makes me sad that people don’t look at the big picture. If only they had the courage to be honest, but I guess that's just wishful thinking.

To all of you liars out there, maybe it’s time you start to right all the wrongs that you imposed on the people you hurt because they sure as h*ll weren't asking for the pain you caused. I guess to right your wrongs you would have to grow a spine because most of you are too spineless to face what you have done. You can keep living your lies, but in the end know that you will end up alone with only your lies to comfort you in the dark.

JB

11 Words & Their Forgotten Meanings

No one means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.

~ Henry Brooks Adams (The Education of Henry Adams, 1907)


I was thinking about this all day... about how we have forgotten the meaning of certain words, especially the eleven that I am about to define below. Here they are, in no particular order:


Love - a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person; a feeling of sexual desire and a passion

Honesty - freedom from deceit or fraud; truthfulness; sincerity or frankness

Respect - esteem for or sense of the worth or excellence of a person; a personnel quality or ability

Integrity -adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character and honesty

Friendship - the state of being a friend; association as friends; to value a person's friendship

Truth - the true or actual state of a matter; honesty, integrity, truthfulness

Commitment - the act of committing; a pledge or promise; obligation; engagement or involvement

Honour - honesty, fairness or integrity in one's belief's or actions

Moral - pertaining to or concerned with the principles or rules of right conduct or the distinction between right and wrong; ethical, moral attitudes

Virtue - moral excellence; goodness and righteousness

Soul - the principle of life, feeling, thought, and action in humans regarded as a distinct entity separate from the body and commonly held to be separable in the existence from the body; the spiritual part of humans as distinct from the physical part

(Thanks to http://www.dictionary.com/ for those definitions)

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words, but it's words that are used to define our actions. So, when you find yourself about to use one of those eleven words above, ask yourself if it really expresses how you feel. For example, when you tell someone that you "love" them, do your actions towards that person reflect the definition of "love" -- or, are you simply using the word with total disregard for its actual meaning?

JB

Truth & Consequences

There comes a point in time where people pause to take inventory of all the good and bad in their life so far. They think about who & what they have faced and why. I find this strange, bewildering, and pretty much full of crap because all I see are people acting without thinking about others, i.e. about what their actions really entail or do to others. I see people simply doing whatever they want, when they want, and then going around blaming others when they screw up. Well, I say, poor you. You got what was coming to you and now DEAL, STUPID! It's called karma. What you put out will eventually come back to smack you in the face.

So, I wonder, do people really take responsibility for their actions, for their life decisions, or do they simply play the avoidance game, the blame game, the 'I hope it goes away if I ignore it long enough' game? I am laughing at those people right now because you know it does not work. Eventually, you have to fess up and deal.

I also wonder what happens when the truth finally does lift up its little head through the denial hole that it was shoved so deep into. Is lying and denying the way for people to deal with or avoid whatever is bogging them down? I'm pretty sure that there has to be a better outlet than this for all you back-stabbing, lying, cruel, insensitive, diabolical puppet masters of the world.

JB