Food for Thought: If Friendship is Your Weakest Point...

Hi All,

Think about the strongest person you know? I'm talking mentally & emotionally, not physically. Who comes to mind? For me, it's my mother, hands down. She's been through a lot in her lifetime, and she's always there whenever I need someone to be strong for me when it seems like things are falling apart. Now, if you know me, this isn't all that often. Usually, I just take control of a situation and handle it. There are times, however, where situations simply can't be controlled and all you can do is just let things be.

Anyway, when I came across the quote I'm sharing will all of you today, it really got me. You see, when you're the type of person who usually takes care of everything on your own, you don't often find yourself asking people for help. I don't rely on others very much because I was brought up to be self-sufficient. So, in many ways, this makes friendship one of my weakest points. Although, ironically, I have always been the go-to person for a lot of people when they need help because I seem very capable to them. Funny how that all works out, huh?

Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below.

Until next time,

Eddy

Belated Birthday Post

Not too long ago, I had a birthday that I was planning to celebrate with a weekend getaway. Unfortunately, I couldn't get the time off work, so my roommate decided that we should invite some people over & have a party. What he didn't tell me was that there were going to be some surprise guests. They weren't strippers, if that's what you're thinking, just people that I hadn't seen or talked to in a long time. We had a really good mix of old and new friends gathered together, so it was an interesting evening. Well, at least from what from what my roommate and I managed to recall the following morning. He was majorly hungover, and I wasn't doing so hot myself. Now that I'm older, I don't have more than 2 or 3 beers every once and a while, so the 12 year old Scotch that I drank the night before was a whole lot harder on me than it used to be back when I used to party all the time.

Anyway, here are some highlights (lol, not so much) from my party:

- finding two pairs of men's tighty whities & a very large bra by my pool the next morning (clearly, some people got naked)

- falling off my bar stool as I tried to spin around to talk to the person behind me (note to self: the bar stools only spin around half way)

- taking my roommate down with me as I fell off my bar stool, yet managing not to spill a drop of the drink in my hand (I do magic tricks too!)

- three larger then life lesbians skinny dipping in my pool using their breasts as floating devices (like I said, some people got naked)

- the bunch of gay guys who screamed like school girls, and then quickly shielded their eyes when they saw the naked ladies in my pool (talk about a bunch of drama "queens")

- one of those guys yelling, "OH MY GOD, there are beavers in the pool!!" (clearly, he was the biggest "queen" on the scene)

- some guy, wearing nothing but his tighty whities, wandering around the house in a complete daze & muttering, "Where's the bathroom?" (I wonder if he ever found it)

- my roommate starting a bonfire at 2am and almost setting himself on fire in the process (note: don’t play with fire when you're extremely drunk)

- hearing my friend who helped me to bed say, "Hey, I didn't realize that you go commando under your jeans" (good thing that friend's not afraid of beavers)

JB

Awarded Again!

My dear fellow bloggers, I have been awarded again. :) This time it's the Neno's award & it was given to me by Magdalena over at The Untamed Thoughts on Autism. Thank you, Magdalena, I am honoured!

Neno's award is given to those who love blogging & love to encourage friendships through blogging. It also seeks to know the reasons why the person being awarded loves blogging.

So, first things first. Why do I love blogging? Well, I started blogging because I was broken and feeling helpless, and I desperately needed an avenue to express myself. I went to therapy, did my yoga, and tried all kinds of other things too, but nothing was really helping until I started blogging. Blogging saved my life, it really did. I mean it. I was on the verge of suicide, but one morning I called Eddy and told her that I wanted to start a blog or something because I needed an outlet. Well, in a couple of hours, Eddy got me up and running & I haven't looked back since. I wrote out all the pain, despair, anger, everything. I wrote until I cried over all that I lost, and somehow, little by little, I gained so much more. I got my life back!! Not only that, I've made so many wonderful new friends. I started healing from my pain because complete strangers took the time to read what I had to say & to leave me messages of encouragement, hope, and love. You have no idea how much that means to me & I thank you all so much. I will never forget what you've done for me & continue to do for me. Lastly, the most amazing thing out of all this is my relationship with my super great cuz, Eddy. Without her help, her pushing me to write, and telling me to get to it, I could never have come this far. So, with great love and appreciation, thank you, Eddy. It's all because of you that I’m able to forge this new road. Thank-you, and I promise that I'm going to buy a better dictionary & that I will use less commas when I'm writing my drafts. LOL

Now, I'm to pass the Neno's award on to as many bloggers as I choose. Those of you selected must then do the following:

1. Collect the award by saving the badge & posting it on your blog

2. Write a blog post about the Neno's award -- tell everyone what it's about, who awarded it to you, and also tell everyone why you love blogging

3. Pass the award on to as many bloggers as you like by naming them in your post & linking back to their blogs

4. Let those bloggers know that they have been awarded

I have chosen the following bloggers as Neno's award recipients:

Court at Tangles Out

Polly at Polly Abroad


JB

One Massage, Two Massages.... Oh, Yeah!

I would like to say that it has been a sh*t kicker of a week, and I'm so happy it's over & the weekend is finally here. The only thing is that it will all start up again on Monday, and if I could run and hide, I would, trust me on this, but I like to deal with things right away. So, I will polish my helmet, and get ready for what the new week has in store for me.

So, as I was saying, this past week was rough. I mean, it really beat me up, and I ended up going for a massage twice. If I hadn't, I think I probably would have ripped someone's head off. Stress is a bad thing, and if you can remove it completely from your life, I recommend you do so ASAP. I try my best not to let it get to me, and if I feel any coming on, I just do something about it right away. This is why I told everyone at work that I had some things to deal with at my lawyers office on Friday, when what I was really doing was sneaking off for another massage. I don't like to lie, but this was for my mental and physical welling being, so I had to make an exception. After all, if I don't take care of myself, who will?

Thank goodness I have AC (I've mentioned her in a previous post). She is a force to be reckoned with, and I am so grateful to call her a friend. After I leave her massage table, I always feel like a new person. In fact, I feel amazing. AC is not just my massage therapist, she's my guide, and I really needed her guidance to deal with all the chaos surrounding me. The only catch is that even when I'm feeling great, everything and everyone around me is falling apart. The balance is so uneven, I can't control it, nor do I want to. So, I go see AC to get me back on track and balanced again. I can only hope that I bring to her life what she brings to mine. If I don't, I feel like she is being short changed because I feel really blessed to have her in my life.

If I had to recommend anything to anyone, take care of yourself. Go for a massage once a week, do yoga or pilates, go for a swim, get a manicure, a pedicure, a facial, a new outfit.... Do something that makes you feel good because taking care of yourself, getting healthy and staying healthy, makes a world of difference.

JB